Practical Parenting: Loving Our Kids on Purpose

Listen, let’s get something straight. I’m not a perfect parent. 

My kids yell, whine, argue, disobey, pout, cry, lie, etc. I may or may not have been known to do more than one of those things on that list myself. My children are not perfect, and I do not expect them to be perfect. 

While we don’t claim perfection, I have found some resources and strategies that are helping shape my girls into competent, respectful, pleasant, and godly young ladies. A few of my readers have requested that I share a bit about what we do, so this is the first of many posts I plan to write about practical parenting.

Do I always get it right? No. Am I here to tell you what to do and how and when to do it? Absolutely not! My purpose in sharing my own struggles and successes is simply:

  1. To show that you and I are basically the same because we each have days that seem to fall somewhere between surviving and thriving.

  2. So you can remember your child’s temper tantrums are often evidence that you are doing something right.

  3. For you to find a few new ideas when you are flustered and fresh out of your own.

Ready for my first practical parenting advice?

It’s to get yourself this book and read it cover to cover:

*sidenote: I’m trying something new here. If you click that link and make a purchase, I will receive a small percentage at no extra cost to you. As an Amazon affiliate, I won’t make millions, but I just might make enough to cover one or two website costs.

This book, by far, has been the number 1 influence in my parenting philosophies.

In fact, Loving Our Kids on Purpose has been so influential in the day-to-day operation of our home, that every time I sat down to write anything connected with parenting, I found myself referring to it. My most logical move was to feature it in a post all of its own.

In the future, as I write, I may accidentally steal some phrasing or principles written by Mr. Danny Silk. I assure you, this is completely unintentional. Should this happen, it is simply because these concepts are so ingrained in my everyday life, that I no longer know how to separate my personal decisions from those I have learned from Silk.

My girls are currently 5 & 7 years old. I first read the book when my oldest was still learning to talk, and then again a couple of years ago when my husband and I chose it for our small group curriculum one semester.

Whether you have an infant, toddler, preschooler, middle schooler, or high schooler, you will find invaluable wisdom, paired with real-life practical examples. I’m already planning to read it again as my children become older and I need to re-evaluate my strategies.

At first, my children were so young, most of the examples didn’t apply to our family. However, I was able to immediately adopt the idea of giving them the freedom to make safe choices, which is something that only gets easier with lots of practice.

Danny Silk explains things so simply, and in such a way that his readers can readily apply his principles, that I strongly urge you to read this book and try out what he teaches for yourself. 

Loving Our Kids on Purpose has helped our family in each of the following areas:

  • Enforcing bedtime

  • Making our girls responsible for their own behavior

  • Cleaning their bedroom

  • Flushing the toilet (why is this a thing we have to teach?!)

  • Responding to tantrums

  • Finding natural consequences

  • Giving appropriate choices

Go buy it, read it, and apply it. And please leave a comment to let me know which practical parenting topic I should tackle in my next post!


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